I have often taken on the problems of others as though they were my own. If you have a problem then ‘we’ have a problem. Usually two heads are better than one when it comes to finding a solution.
I had someone tell me once that I was too ‘nice’ and that was the source of all my problems. This kind nature of mine some how attracted the wrong type of people that took but never gave back. I was advised to essentially be ‘meaner’ to balance the scales. How does that even make sense?
Unfortunately, not everyone that you meet will be willing to go out of their way for you in the same way that you would for them. I am not talking about the odd lunchtime meetups here and there. I’m talking about the times when you’re at your all time low or in a difficult situation. You find yourself emotionally linking yourself to someone who is willing to sever all ties with you with a snap of their fingers. In times of need they are no where to be found. Every call goes straight to voicemail and every message ignored until the time they need something from you. Meanwhile, you are willing to drop everything and travel to another city/country at the first sign of trouble to check they are ok. If this sounds oddly familiar then you need to make a change!
You are kind by nature and not everyone knows how to appreciate that to the fullest extent. The great thing is that there are so many people who are capable of doing so and will do so. Don’t let anybody extinguish the bright flame that exists within you. The kindness that you show to others will always come back to you even if it’s not in the way you expected.
Never change your nature to suit the ideals of other people. Never compromise on what you believe in to fit in. Lastly, never be afraid to speak up and speak your mind. You have a voice. Use it.
Have you ever felt like you needed to compromise on your standards to please others? How did you deal with the situation? Leave a comment down below.
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