The life you imagined for yourself may not have turned out exactly how you envisioned it. So what? You are still alive.There are 2 things you can do; wallow in self-pity or take control of your life.You can sit and cry but what will that do for you? The harsh reality is that when you have finished sobbing, the situation is still there waiting for you to deal with it. The latter is easier said than done but nonetheless, it is the better option. Until you accept what has happened you cannot move on. By living in denial or avoiding the situation you are only holding yourself back from the better life that is to come. It may feel as though you are in a state of ‘free fall’. A stage of uncertainty. What is going to happen now? Where do I go from here?
I will let you in on a little secret, situations/circumstances are temporary. What may seem like the end of the world will get better eventually. When you were a child and fell out with a friend it seemed like there was no way forward, but there’s always a way forward. It’s just difficult to accept and takes time. I have said it once and I will say it again. The only person standing in your way is you. Take time to re-evaluate yourself and reconnect with who you are. Sometimes you need to switch off in order to plug into your life again. Come back with a new outlook and motivation to change your situation whether it be a bad job, relationship or friendship.
Hold onto the constant in your life. Having a support network whether that be friends or family is so important. I cannot stress this enough. There are some people who believe that all they need is themselves but it’s simply not true. Even if it’s trying to get a placement or a job, connections HELP. No man is an island. You can’t do everything alone. Life doesn’t work that way. Sometimes you need someone to kick you back into gear.
A wise person once told me that if you are destined to have something it will be yours. No one can take it from you if it is meant to be yours. Do your best and when I say do your best, I don’t mean last minute, “well, I tried”. I mean consistent 100% effort 24/7. The rest is up to God. The future is not set in stone so never think that because one door closed another will not open because another will ALWAYS open. Occasionally, we fail to see the bigger picture. There are opportunities EVERYWHERE. You just have to see it, believe that it is yours and go for it.