Self-confidence is being able to trust in your abilities, qualities, and judgment. It is a combination of self-efficacy (believing that you have the skills to perform the desired task) and self-esteem. A lack of self-confidence often held me back from achieving my full potential but at the time I couldn’t quite put my finger on what is was. There are many things that can cause us to lose self-confidence; failure, criticism, and fear just to name a few. Everyone experiences one of these things at some point in their life. It is how we deal with it that makes the difference. Self-confidence is a state of mind that anyone can master. Below, I have mentioned a couple of tips that will help you to take control and build your self-confidence.
Create a positive space
Create a positive space/bubble that will go everywhere you go. Being positive means highlighting your strengths and allowing yourself to be fueled by your successes. At the same time, you need to be aware of your weaknesses and find ways to improve them. Accept compliments from others and compliment yourself every once in a while! Recognise your own achievements. No one will think you are vain for doing so!
Always stay positive even when it’s the last thing you want to do. The more positivity you exude the more you will receive back. Yes, you will make mistakes but it’s not the end of the world. As long as you’re still breathing it is rectifiable. Learning from your mistakes will help you to improve and become a better person in the long run.
Surround yourself with people who make positive contributions to your life. Sadly, this requires you to evaluate the people you surround yourself with. Ask yourself, how is that person benefiting me? It is human nature to crave things from other humans; that could be a friendship where we crave emotional and psychological support or a job where we benefit financially for example.
Kill the negative thoughts
The only obstacle that could ever stop you from achieving your dreams surprise, surprise, is yourself. You need to be conscious of what you tell yourself, the stream of thoughts you allow into your head and the advice you take from others. Unfortunately, not everyone has your best interest at heart. Someone could secretly be plotting your downfall. Be mindful of your actions and those of the people you surround yourself with. It took me ages to start this blog because I kept thinking of the what if’s and how people would perceive me. I didn’t know where or how to start. The constant encouragement from two friends gave me the push I needed to take the plunge. Now I can recognise those negative streams of thoughts and balance them out with the positives. I didn’t know I was carrying a ton of negativity bricks until it was gone this summer. Self-realisation no matter how late it is always a Godsend.
Sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. You may not feel confident just yet but you can make your body language say otherwise. When I was younger, I used to slouch all of the time and look at the floor when I walked. My mum used to berate me for it and tell me to sit up straight. Small changes such as holding your head up high and pushing your shoulders back as you walk will automatically make you appear more confident. Smiling will make you feel happier and creates a domino effect positively affecting those around you. It also helps to create the positive bubble I mentioned earlier!
Be prepared and knowledgeable
Of course, you will feel down if you are asked a question and you don’t know the answer. It is part of the learning process. We cannot talk about what we don’t know. Build the knowledge you need to succeed. The more time you invest in learning the skills needed to achieve your goals the more confident you will become. Think about the steps you need to take to get to your end goal and what you will need to do to complete said steps. This requires planning and patience. If you fail to plan then you plan to fail. Life is one big exam so prepare as you would for a written one.
I still have my fears the only difference is now, I do not allow it limit me. Mistakes are inevitable but the important thing is how we deal with them. Remember, failure is a natural part of life and the greatest people to live failed many times before they became successful. Thanks for reading! Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram, Twitter, Bloglovin and Tumblr.