The Natural Hair Struggle

Having watched so many natural hair Youtube videos I thought I would have an idea of what to do with mine and yet, nothing prepared me for my own natural hair journey. Nobody tells you that your hair won’t turn out like the girls you see on Instagram. Your natural curl pattern is left in God’s hands. It all boils down to genetics.  If you’re lucky you will only have one hair texture to deal with. If not, the front of your hair could have a tighter curl pattern than the back of your head for example.

The ‘fight’ between relaxed hair advocates  and natural hair advocates is ridiculous. Just because someone chooses to relax their hair does not mean they have underlying self-hate issues. I chose to relax my hair when I was 11 because it was easier to maintain. I did it out of convenience not because I rejected the hair I was born with. I have chosen to start my natural hair journey because I didn’t like how thin my hair felt. I’m a big fan of hair with lots of volume.

If someone chooses to wear their natural hair it is not messy/unkempt. How can the hair that naturally grows out of my head be socially unacceptable? This just emphasizes how strong an influence social media is on our perception of beauty and what is socially acceptable. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and is not defined by one idea. I am constantly shocked when I read articles about young girls who have been sent home for having braids or their natural hair out because their hairstyle it is “inappropriate”. We are encouraged to have confidence in ourselves and yet something that naturally grows out of your scalp could be called “inappropriate”. I don’t see the correlation. If you can please explain it to me.

Anyways, It has definitely taken me a lot of time to adjust to my natural hair simply because I haven’t had natural hair since I was 11 (I’m 21 now just to give you an idea of how long it has been). I’ve had to learn how to take care of my hair properly and not just wash it, cream it and call it a day.

Transitioning was a nightmare. For those of you who don’t know what transitioning is it’s when you stop using relaxers/texturizers and let your natural hair grow out. Originally, I was going to transition for 2 years and chop the relaxed ends off gradually. Unfortunately, things like this never go according to plan. I spontaneously decided to cut my hair a year ahead of schedule on New Year’s day (I know, what a way to start a new year!). The scissors were taunting me on the table and I had had enough of my hair. Dealing with 2 textures was by far one of the most irritating thing I have ever had to do. I was used to my thin comb gliding through my straight relaxed hair.  Now, I have to use a wide toothed comb, spray my hair with detangler and comb from the ends upwards. It just seems like such a long  process now and my hair requires much more attention. Why did I pick this life? If there was any other way to have thicker stronger hair then I would have taken it but alas,  we can’t always get what we want.

The natural hair movement is a trend. If you’re gonna move to “#team natural” do it for yourself and not because everyone else is doing it. Similarly, if you are thinking about relaxing your hair think about why you are doing it. If I didn’t have a practical reason for reverting to my natural hair I would have continued relaxing my hair. Self love is really important. Do what you are comfortable with and do it with confidence! At the end of the day it’s your hair and your decision. Let me know what your views are in the comments section below! Don’t forget you can follow me on Instagram, Twitter and Tumblr! If you have any burning questions you want to ask me leave them in the comment section below and I’ll answer them in a Q&A post!

Thanks for reading!




3 thoughts on “The Natural Hair Struggle

  1. Love it! This whole natural movement is indeed a trend…waiting for it to phase out to be honest. The only reason I stopped using chemicals in my hair is because that’s for me the best way to let my hair grow. I guess we are always on a journey whether it’s hair or just life in general. But all these natural products are just getting out of hand…too much to choose from. And my hair doesn’t look like those girls on YouTube at all do I stopped watching. It’s all the same. It’s a african American cultural thing. In Europe it’s less cray..especially in the country where I live ..the Netherlands..where most people wear weaves and wigs lol. I guess hair is each his long as your happy. Again, GREAT POST! HAVE A LOVELY SUNDAYYYY💋😘🌞🍁🙌

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    1. Thank you! Your comment has made my day! I think some products do work better for some hair types more than others but I don’t think there’s a massive difference. The best decision I ever made was only using sulphate free shampoo and regularly deep conditioning my hair. My hair used to feel really dry and brittle after I washed it but now it feels really soft and strong. I can’t lie, I’m lazy and don’t bother to deep condition my hair all the time. I could never stick to one of the long natural hair care routines. I dont have the commitment lool. To be honest, I have accepted that my hair will never be like the girls on YouTube. My hair texture wasn’t built for that. I’d have to curl my hair a certain way to achieve it. I think the natural hair movement is popular in the UK but it’s not as big here as it is in America. To me, wigs and weaves are life but I do like letting my natural every once in a while lol. I hope you enjoy your day today 😆

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      1. You’re welcome dear! I’ve just started using sulphate free shampoos as well, and I now deep condition after every wash..I even pre-shampoo with my own DIY natural ingredients . So I think this movement/trend made me more aware of my hair, but I think I will stick with doing those 3 things on the regular.. hahahaha everything else is just a waste of my time and money honestly. Anyways, have a lovely week yourself! 🙂

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